First Dates
When it comes to dating, first dates are the most awkward. They are difficult for several reasons. No matter if you meet someone for the first time, go through speed dating, or even meet on a group date one thing is for sure - first dates are very nerve wracking. If someone asks you out on a date, either in person, online, or even if someone fixed you up, that means that on the first date you are responsible for figuring out if you like the person. Not to mention the fact that it is nerve wracking because of that kind of pressure. First dates are definitely something that can cause a lot of problems. Actually, there are two sides to the whole ‘first date’ problem. If the people actually meet initially, numbers are arranged, and a date is made, that brings up a different set of complications than if the potential couple is meeting for the first time.
First, let’s examine the scenario where two individuals meet somewhere, such as in a bar or at the supermarket. They are attracted to each other, strike up a conversation, and exchange phone numbers. Eventually, one asks the other out. Their first date is planned. They agonize over what to wear, they worry about whether or not they will say something stupid, and in general there are occasional periods of awkwardness during the date. But all this is to be expected and essentially universal no matter what kind of first date there is. If you do not initially know the person and met the person online, through classified ads, or if it is a blind date, there is that awkward period at the beginning of the date where you are trying to figure out if you actually want to go through with it.
However, there are things that you can do to make the first date not as awkward. The first is that you can be yourself. Talk about things that you want to talk about. Don’t lie. Be yourself. If you do that you have a greater chance of success. When you are completely yourself and feel comfortable with that, it makes it easier to get to know the other person. First dates do not have to be as awkward as people think. Plus, if two people have really good chemistry, the first date will not be awkward at all.
